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Tal Ben-Shahar and Angus Ridgway’s SHARP model of leadership looks at Performance Multiplier 3: ABSORPTION

MYTH 3:  Peak experiences are necessarily rare, a product of special and extraordinary events.

Of course, you cannot expect to be awed by what you are doing at work all the time.  However, peak experiences do not have to be rare. You can nurture the ideal set of circumstances to raise such moments.   You don’t wait for good things or ‘magic’ to happen.  You make a pro-active decision to focus on what is positive and productive.  You stay mindfully engaged doing what pleases you to meet a desirable goal. 

Tal Ben-Shahar and Angus Ridgway’s SHARP model of leadership looks at Performance Multiplier 2: HEALTH (continued)

The 3 pillars of health as we know are diet, exercise and sleep.  To keep them standing strong you want to attend to each one mindfully.  Work smarter, not harder.  Habits that hold these pillars up have to be regulated.  A healthy diet loses its benefits if you indulge in overeating.  Eat till you are 80% full.  Exercising to the point of self-injury defeats any gains made.  Walk between sprinting and restore energy. If you pull an all-nighter and are on borrowed sleep, your fatigue makes you as impaired as someone with an illegal blood alcohol content level.  Aim for 8 hours of sleep and take short naps in the afternoon if you need to restore your energy.     

Tal Ben-Shahar and Angus Ridgway’s SHARP model of leadership looks at
Performance Multiplier 2: HEALTH

How much energy do you apply to life and work?  Energy is our capacity to work that comes from the ‘wellsprings of our body, mind, spirit and emotions’.  Stress is our body’s natural response to the demands placed on us.  The more demands placed on us, the more energy is spent.

Ben-Shahar and Ridgway’s SHARP model of leadership looks at
Performance Multiplier 1: STRENGTHS

“Stoke the fires that are already within you.  Don’t spend time on remediation.”  To truly flourish as leaders it is wise to “make the most of your gifts”.  

You could be called upon to lead a group in any setting of any size: your local temple or church, HOA, PTA, Scouts, Sports League, social or professional organization.  If you work in a corporation, you know that in today’s work world, leadership does not stop at mid-management. You could be charged to lead a team of 3 or 10 for the next project.  Learning to be a flourishing leader applies to you, even if you do not think so at first glance.   

As a leader you have planned, strategized and executed numerous tasks to achieve the goals of your team, over the years.  All the leadership skills that have been learned, adopted and practiced in good times are challenged during tough times.  Suddenly, your entire focus has shifted.  The original vision for the organization gets sidelined by the need of the hour.  Working from home is the new norm.  The goal post has shifted from winning to surviving, and you have to address that immediately.   

With the current covid-19 crisis, the world is watching as leaders around the globe manage their respective countries.  Reports have been revealing.  In an April 21, Washington Post ‘Opinions’ column, several female leaders of nations have been held as exemplars of effective leadership. “To the extent that female heads of state are performing better than men against the coronavirus crisis, it’s likely because women are expected to be — and have learned to be — more democratic leaders, more collaborative and more compassionate communicators.”

As you continue to invest in your resilience, let us revisit the rest of Rick Hanson’s suggestions. 

3     REGULATING:

Stay calm by learning to manage your emotional states.  With each extension of the lockdown it is but natural to feel frustration and anger.  With each report of the toll that Covid-19 is taking on our fellow beings, it is only human to feel anxiety.  Regular practice of Yoga, Tai Chi and mindfulness based practices help you bring your emotional state back to baseline and equilibrium.  Activate your parasympathetic nervous system.  It calms you.

We first reacted with doubt and disbelief, followed by natural fear and anxiety.  As we get our bearings around our ‘new normal’ and commit to best safe practices, we can do one more thing.  We can resolve to increase our resilience.  This is our insurance.  Bounce back higher than before!  At this time of grave uncertainty, constant flow of somber information, how are you building your resilience?  Rick Hanson’s methods can be applied here aptly.