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Skill 3 – The X Spot: finding success accelerants

Having assigned value to your goal and created a mental map to get there, the next step is to generate accelerants to get to your goal efficiently.  Shawn Achor shows us how by marking the ‘X’ Spot.

The 26.2 miles set for a marathon is a highly coveted distance that is attempted by millions.  Marathon runners who upon reaching the grueling 26 miles, are about to cross over into the last .2 miles, do not seem to flag, even if their legs are buckling, or every breath is a painful gasp.  To the contrary, they seem to gain speed.  Cursing, raising fists, or seeming to lose control of their limbs, they sprint the last stretch.  “The last .2 is torture, glory, and history all rolled into one stretch”, (Runner’s World, Sep 2020). 

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Raise your level of Positive Genius. 
Practice 5 skills as shown by Shawn Achor in Before Happiness.

Skill 2 – Mental Cartography: Mapping your success route
 
“Success without meaning is hollow and not worth the effort.”  When you create a life of more meaning, it leads to happiness.  When you are happier it leads to success. Meaning → Happiness → Success.

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Raise your level of positive genius.  Practice 5 skills as shown by Shawn Achor in ‘Before Happiness’.

SKILL 1 – Reality Architecture: Choosing the most valuable reality
How to see multiple realities and choose the one that leads to positive growth
 
Strategy 1: Recognize alternative realities
You have the ability to choose your perspective (interpretation) of the facts in front of you.  Choose the view from any angle: front, side, above, or below.  Each perspective offers a slightly different reality.  Pick the lens that appeals to you the most and holds the greatest value. 

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“If you want to create positive change in your life, you first have to change your reality.”  (Shawn Achor, Before Happiness, 2013)
 
There is so much clamor around IQ, EQ, and SI, that what we miss seeing is that this alphabet soup of all three intelligences is at our disposal to converge, draw upon, and put to optimal use. 

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Mihályi Csíkszentmihályi in his book Good Business: Leadership, Flow and the making of Meaning, (2004), promotes the idea that the state of ‘Flow’ is not relegated to the domain of leisure activities alone; it is in fact very much encouraged to be cultivated in everyday life, even at work. 
 
To generate and maintain a state of Flow certain conditions have to be present. We looked at the first 6 of the 9 factors that encompass this state of consciousness, in previous two posts.  Here are the last 3 factors:

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Build your Psychological Capital      

NPR’s ‘Hidden Brain’ podcast series recently aired Dr. Kate Sweeney of UC, Riverside, CA talk about the tips on waiting well and the benefits of getting into ‘Flow’ during painful, uncertain times.  I was delighted by the serendipity of how well it aligned with the topic of my writing this month. 
Watch Dr Sweeney in this 1 min video on ’How to Survive Waiting’.

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So many people are currently feeling thrown off track and out of control, due to global or local events.  Some are living in constant anxiety.  Then there are some using this time of uncertainty as an opportunity to submerge themselves and become lost in an activity that calls to them.  

This isn’t just escapism.  It is uplifting and strengthening.  It is a priceless experience to submit oneself to a state of complete immersion in an activity that seems to take on a life of its own, moving you, guiding you smoothly and deftly, avoiding rocks or bumps like a flowing stream.  This is the world of ‘Flow’.  Optimize this ‘down time’ to step into flow, notwithstanding the turmoil around you.  “It is better to look suffering straight in the eye, acknowledge and respect its presence, and then get busy as soon as possible focusing on things we choose to focus on.”

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One more look at Tal Ben-Shahar and Angus Ridgway’s SHARP model of leadership and Performance Multiplier 5: PURPOSE

MYTH: Achievement and success lead to happiness and fulfillment. 

A. Meaning and commitment are the key ingredients of purpose and lead to joyful leadership. Purpose has to be:

1) A stable and long term commitment
2) Meaningful to you as well as valuable to others. 

“Purpose endows a person with joy in good times and resilience in hard times and this holds true all throughout life,”William Damon in ‘The Path to Purpose'(2008).  Damon studied purpose in young people and categorized them into 4 groups.

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Tal Ben-Shahar and Angus Ridgway’s SHARP model of leadership looks at Performance Multiplier 5: PURPOSE
 
MYTH # 5: The key to fulfillment lies in seeking and finding the meaning of life. 
 
Just as a compass is a navigational tool that points to the North Pole giving you your bearings, your “True North” is your internal compass representing your values and beliefs that you lead by and become even more effective when aligned with universal and timeless principles. 

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“Rather than grind out tasks on a to-do list while waiting to discover life’s ultimate purpose, 10X leaders find meaning and commitment in their daily activities”, say Tal Ben-Shahar and Angus Ridgway.  They believe that “meaning and commitment are the path to joyful leadership….Purpose endows a person with joy in good times and resilience in hard times.”  If you want to live your dreams ask yourself what about your work is meaningful, speaks to you and fills you with zest and vigor.  This will fuel you for the long haul and toughen you up for the rough patches. 

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